Women are genetically engineered to desire that which points to a future of stability, ease of living, and children. In the past three millennia, if not longer, knowing more than one language meant you traveled often, and traveling often meant you were a merchant. Merchants have been for thousands of years and continue to be the rich and elite of society. Today, those who travel continue to be, more often than not, wealthy. Knowing more than one language, therefore, infers a smart, wealthy, cosmopolitan man with the potential to provide stability for a woman and her children (of course, that is your subconscious magnetism towards women — you don’t, and shouldn’t, fit into what they subconsciously want you to be for them: a source of money and stability). Knowing multiple languages also tells the world you’re adventurous: why learn a language unless you plan to venture through another country?
Today we can learn languages during our commute, while perhaps only traveling a couple miles. Nonetheless, the man who knows more than one language (and is not afraid to show it) is still seen by women as intelligent, determined, fun, adventurous, cool, and debonair.
Languages make the opposite sex absolutely melt. Whenever I’m at a loss for words when talking to a girl at a party, I’ll just bust out in either Italian or French just for the hell of it. Does it make sense? Does it fit into the conversation naturally? Who cares! (see: You Write the Script).
Therefore, learn languages. Not only for women, but for yourself. Learn them to build your résumé, go vagabonding through other countries, and keep your brain active. But ultimately, learn languages to connect with others.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve met or hung out with new people who I instantly connect with through knowledge of a language other than English.
I was visiting a friend once and we went to a party. Now I was the new guy and I didn’t know anyone besides my friend. Of course, I didn’t want to cling onto him the whole night. So after a beer or two, viola, I started speaking random Italian mid-sentence. Oh cool, two girls reply with some French and another with Spanish. I playfully reply back in their tongue. Boom. Instant connectivity; we’re suddenly all best friends.
Or what about the time when I was at a party, pretending I was an exchange student from Italy named Mario, and that girl literally threw herself on top of me.
Or the time when I established rapport with a girl because of our common love for travel (her longing for it and my partaking in it). “Oh my God you’re so exotic,” she said, as she laid down on my lap. One thing I’ve discovered is that women in particular have a deep desire to leave their lives behind and go vagabonding for an extended period of time. Capitalize on this.
Or the time when I was again the new guy at a party, and I made friends with a kid from Macedonia when I told him about my time in Greece and my desire to visit his home country. He thereafter made me feel at home and comfortable, introducing me to his friends and assimilating me into their group.
I can only predict how many times I’ll be meeting a professional contact, or perhaps interviewing for a job, when once again language or travel will come to my aid.
We subconsciously label our friends and contacts; it’s only natural and makes it easier for our brains to organize things. Your boss is probably labelled under “work,” “professional,” and “authority.” Your friend could be labelled under “skateboarder,” “unintelligent,” and “weed,” for example. The deeper the relationship you establish, the more these labels blur. Regardless, what do you get labelled as when you meet someone new with whom you discuss language or travel? That’s right, you’re that fun, adventurous, cool guy who could also be called “sophisticated and cosmopolitan” if you present yourself right.
So go forth and learn languages, travel, and become interesting by being interested in the cultures of others.
And always remember, you write the script. Writing the script is easier with some alcohol in everyone’s system, but you can still, with a bit of practice, write the script of your conversations without it.
Note: mark well the difference between someone who’s “namedropping” and someone who’s writing the script. A scriptwriter makes things flow naturally, doesn’t stumble, and makes the other person prompt him to present his knowledge of a language or experience of travel.
For example, if you’re out to lunch with a girl, don’t straight-out-of-the-gate mention that you speak French. Rather, look at the menu, and say “So what are you getting?” She’ll say “x, what about you?” “Hmm, I think I might imagine I’m in Paris for the day and go with some le bœuf. J’aime le bœuf, et tu?” To which she’ll reply, “wait, you speak French?” “Oui, I spent 3 months in France actually.” It’s smooth sailing from here.
Another point: social media makes this easier — present yourself as adventurous and fun, and your reputation will follow. No need to earn a reputation, nowadays you can quite literally just write it down.